Date Archives July 2024
The ice cream shop
We opened the ice-cream shop on Tuesday, and the third Ice Age began on Wednesday*. When I say, third Ice Age, I am actually referring to our first winter in Sweden. And when I say, our first winter in Sweden, I mean the snow blizzard of this morning.
Ruan says I have a tendency to exaggerate. I say hyperbole is a way of processing pain. We agree to disagree, which I suspect is why our marriage has lasted this long. What I will admit to is that I was ill prepared for the blizzard. In my defence, South African weather has three variations: warm, far less warm and roasting in the fiery ovens of humid hell.
Ruan and I have been in Sweden for nine months and when winter began, thick snowflakes gently drifted to the ground, performing what I can only describe as nature’s rendition of Swan Lake. Sure, it was colder than what I was used to, but I managed to get by with jogger pants and a T-shirt underneath a puffy winter jacket.
This morning was a different story. On the road to the ice cream shop, a short thirty metres from our apartment, tiny crystals swirled across the sky, flying at my face like needle-like daggers ready to stab my face. The constant gusts of wind made it harder to breath and my eyes watered for reasons I cannot yet explain.
“We are beyond the wall, man,” I groan, dusting off the snow from my jacket. My face is soaking wet.
“Winter is here,” he says, understanding my reference as I unzip my jacket.
“My face is sore and I am crying for some reason,” I gingerly pat the tender apples of my cheeks. “We are so beyond the wall!” I lament. “Who is going to save us? Where is Jon Snow?”
“He is in England, love.” Ruan is watching the inside of a huge mixer. “Stuck in a cost of living crisis like the rest of the northerners.”
“You mean like the rest of the world.” I hang up my jacket, beanie and slip off my boots at the back entrance of the shop. “You know what I think?” I say, sliding on the slippers we brought with us. “Swedes don’t need apartheid to understand mass injustice. Surviving winter every year is their version of mass brutality.”
“Dramatic much?” Ruan smiles.
“Don’t make light of human suffering, hon.”
“Anusha, I hope you’re reminding yourself that this is our first winter here.” Before I can pipe up with a response, Jonas walks in through the customer entrance. Jonas lives in the same apartment building as we do. By all accounts, Jonas hates immigrants. I only say this because our American neighbour, the forever friendly Michael, told Ruan that Jonas incessantly complains about immigrants in the building. On the group chat restricted to apartment owners, Jonas takes issue with how many foreigners are in the building, how many foreigners are not as fluent in Swedish as he and has shared a number of theories that the laundry room worked much better before immigrants lived in the building. Michael says Jonas hates Lidl for the number of foreigners that shop there and from our own encounters Jonas has never greeted, smiled or acknowledged us in anyway.
I’d love to say we are superior in our consideration but Ruan, raised on so much toxic masculinity that he might as well have been fed rage through his mother’s breast milk, plays chicken with Jonas on the pavements leading to our home. Ruan is certain Jonas intentionally refuses to politely walk on one side of the pavement to accommodate other people walking by, and for his refusal, Ruan purposely moves to the centre when he sees Jonas on the roads.
The one time, Jonas walked out of the elevator, past me and another neighbour—the long standing apartment dweller and equally Swedish, Elsa, and as Jonas moved through the second door of the building, Elsa muttered the word, “trångsynt” under her breath. Elsa is about twenty years younger than me, with plum-coloured hair and a tiny tattoo of a flying bird marking her left wrist. Elsa is Magda’s daughter. She switches from Swedish to English with the ease of a UN translator and always smiles at our son when we happen to see her in the building.
Jonas and Elsa are polar opposites.
I don’t believe Elsa expected me to hear her that day or that I would search the Internet to understand the word’s meaning. Often used to describe bigotry or prejudice, the word trångsynt shocked me. Then it frightened me. I have before raised my concerns with Ruan about how ideas might influence citizen behaviour toward us, but Ruan merely repeats his stubborn adage of ons is die mense (we are the people), suggesting that we are equally human and therefore equally deserving. We shouldn’t, to his mind, pander to any suggestion that we are not. Something about Ruan’s Afrikaner ancestry (a mix of German, Dutch and French descent) makes him bullish at the core. Afrikaners are those Africans that will not back down from a fight, even when it’s for their own good. I hate conflict. Maybe it’s the Indian ancestry buried in me, but I would prefer more cooperation and understanding.
“Hej Jonas,” I say, smiling. He ignores me and stares through the glass counter at the compartments of ice cream on display. He mumbles something. “Ursäkta mig, I am still learning Swedish…,” I say, hoping that he catches my drift. I hear Ruan sigh loudly and aggressively behind me. Jonas looks up at me and his mouth has disappeared into a thin line. He says nothing. The moments pass between me and him as I awkwardly smile, waiting for Jonas to make his order while he stares at me unblinking.
“Wat wil jy hê?” Ruan mutters in Afrikaans from behind me. It’s rude to ask someone what they want so bluntly so I start rambling cheerfully about how good the peanut caramel flavour is, scooping it up into a small cup for Jonas to try. He takes the cup and tastes the ice cream, looking away from me and Ruan, he concentrates as though he is the head chef of an expensive restaurant.
I hear the faint chime of the doorbell and see our neighbour Magda walk in. She glances at Jonas and her gentle smile vanishes. Pulling off her gloves, Magda stands away from the door, at arm’s length from Jonas. Seeing them together, I immediately notice how good looking a couple they would make. While we have lived in the building for nine months, Michael has filled Ruan in on all the gossip and inside info. Magda is a department manager at one of the big Swedish banking firms. She is divorced, has never remarried and summers in Denmark every year where her sister lives. Jonas runs his own automotive mechanic shop, managing a small staff that fixes cars privately. He is a widower. I notice that Magda and Jonas have the same misty grey eyes. While Magda is a willowy beauty in deeply lined soft skin, Jonas has a towering physique and haphazard spiky hair. I catch Magda’s eye and she smiles warmly at me. I wonder if a cup of ice cream will work on them both. But hey, there’s only one way to find out.
“Hej Magda, would you like to try our peanut caramel flavour? It’s a free tasting.”
“Okay,” she says and I hand her a small cup. “Michael told us he asked you to manage the shop. How is it going?”
“He showed us the ropes,” I glance back at Ruan who was actually the one taking mental notes in that meeting, “But it is our first week, we may burn the place down tomorrow.” Magda does not laugh. I find myself feeling a different kind of awkward. “I’m just joking,” I say quickly and she nods at me like a teacher to an odd child.
“Michael sa att glassen var gratis,” Jonas proclaims loudly. Before I can switch my brain to better concentrate on his words and decipher its possible meaning, Magda responds.
“Michael actually said any ice cream we buy would be discounted by fifty percent not given to us for free.” Jonas quickly looks at Magda and they’re now staring at each other. It feels like an old Western stand off. I am hoping no one dies.
“Michael won’t mind if we give you both free ice creams,” I cut in. “Ruan and I can cover the cost.”
“Excuse me?” The tone of Ruan’s voice is what I imagine matches his face, even though I don’t look back to find out.
“No!” Magda insists but Jonas’s face, for the first time ever, peels into a smile. It feels like a win.
“Yes, yes, of course,” I say, looking across at my two neighbours. “We can call it our treat.”
“Are you sure?” Magda says.
“Yes, Anusha, are you sure?” I glance back at Ruan and there’s the steady glare that says, he is pissed.
“Of course,” I repeat, dishing out the ice creams and handing one to Magda and Jonas respectively. They file out of the shop and Ruan sighs, muttering the words, you’re too nice. He ignores me for the rest of the day.
The shop’s closing time comes off the back of quiet boredom and once the clock hits three o’clock, we begin clearing up. The concentration of work and our quiet chatter over dinner plans make us deaf to what must have been the chime of the doorbell. Magda and Jonas I notice walk in to the store as a single unit, their bodies intimately close together.
“We wanted to come back and pay you for the ice creams,” Jonas announces, with a pleasant contentment to his face. “We don’t want you getting into trouble with Michael.” Did he say “we”?
“Thank you, but that won’t be necessary,” I say, waving at Jonas as he takes out his wallet. “Did you enjoy the ice creams?”
“Yes!” They both beam.
“Very good,” Jonas says, looking to Magda who places her hand on Jonas’s shoulder, leaning her head on him. “We were talking about holding a party for you two.”
“For us?”
“For everyone in the building,” Magda explains. “A day out.”
“A snow day!” Jonas smiles.
“You can bring your children and we can spend the morning outside, drinking some hot beverage.”
“Glögg.” Jonas nods eagerly.
“Or hot chocolate for the children,” Magda adds.
“I can make snacks for us to eat.” I look to Magda.
“Sure!” Jonas laughs. “It would be nice to try some Indian delights.” I don’t mention that I am not Indian but a South African. The camaraderie feels too good to mess up with details. “And we would like to know more about your…” Jonas looks past me, “people.” Ruan is as silent as the grave.
“We have checked the weather forecast,” Martha says, “and although anything can happen, we should try our luck tomorrow.”
“It will be a fika date,” I say and both Magda and Jonas say “Ja” for yes. The pair lift their hands to say goodbye and stride out of the shop. As the door shuts, Ruan speaks.
“What just happened?”
“Our friendly neighbours invited us to a get together,” I say turning to face him.
“Did you see Jonas?”
“How sweet of him to offer to pay us for the ice creams.”
“He spoke English to you.”
“Yes, he did.”
“Babe, the man has seen us hundreds of times in nine months and look at him.” He points to the wall-sized window that faces the empty street. “And Magda?” Ruan shakes his head, as if sorting through his thoughts. “Do you think they had sex?” he whispers.
“What?” I smile.
“She was hanging onto him like they were long lost lovers.”
“Love changes people, babe. Real love can change the world.”
“Don’t give me that starry eyed BS, you saw what I saw. Do you think they were high? Why are you so nonplussed about this? We are witnesses to a body snatching incident.”
“Maybe Magda and Jonas were inspired to be more open minded.” I glance back and look at the ice creams, recalling the pinch of old magic I added to the the milk.
“Jonas has done a complete 180 on us,” Ruan muses.
“Yeah.” I scoop myself some peanut caramel to taste. “Who knows? By the time Michael comes back from his business trip, the world might be a kinder place.”
*Writing prompt courtesy of Creative Writing in English
Stories that trigger: threat or economic independence
Architecture of love
Imagine my surprise when I learned,
Gothenburg was pronounced Yothe-bury, a different name.
How can you let us get away with mispronouncing this place?
She smiled, awkwardly I guess,
never considering Swedish words,
were anglicised the world over.
There was so much we presumed about those relegated to Viking and their serfs.
What we don’t see are the pillars, windows, walls of love,
built to serve the people across class.
The housing projects that match earth’s slopes,
including libraries, pools, forests and open lawns, making bulk brick or concrete estates a laugh.
Every road has pavements and bicycle lanes,
private property, whether walled in or fenced off,
is kept minimal by roaming rights.
We should be able to enjoy the land and beaches, a fine sight.
Sweden’s people, their elected reps,
largely control the sale of alcohol, thank goodness.
It’s illegal to carry guns on the street,
including knives or weaponised scissors.
The state regulates rental prices in public housing and private property,
making sure people have access to affordable housing,
everyone should be able to live,
to resist a money-making suffocate, round ring.
Most schools are public, municipal run,
not the for-profit private institutes at every turn.
Here again, this is to ensure all children, irrespective of class,
enjoy fairly equitable roots as they learn.
Did you know, school aftercare is managed by the state,
while schooling is free, aftercare comes at an expense,
but if you’re poor, your cost is equal to your family income, verified of course,
if you’re rich, your cost is limited, which makes fair, good sense.
Olof challenged sex and gender inhibitions,
suggesting democratic rights should be enjoyed by all.
He supported worker unions,
and questioned the geopolitical domination that enthralls.
The architecture was built a long, long time ago,
and while cracks, shifts, anger and hurt over governance,
rises up in waves from the working and middle class,
what is clear is that the impetus to serve was there, a fight against ruling class stubbornness.
A house was built to serve an entire country,
not a single Swede understands engineered economic mass exclusion and exploitation,
when 90% of your country is deliberately undermined, exploited and brutalised,
how can they fully appreciate the impact of South African pillars that serve some over many, the dominance of self-absorbed ruminations.
The flying critics that spread their wings are woefully misled,
while the criticisms of South African governance are true,
their substance however diverges from a total review of systems, control, processes and influence,
that see domestic and foreign holdings, an expansion exacerbating gross inequities anew.
If Sverige’s architecture were different,
if a false love was built and shaped to serve indecent minority enrichment,
ABBA’s country might have been another South Africa, smaller but similarly divided,
a working class much alike and equally, vociferously astringent.
So bless the pillars of love,
the windows, walls, stairs and doorways that were built.
Take heart in knowing Sweden, that once a ruling class cared enough,
to build a house that serves all fairly equitably, accessibly, a real home.
I am not Indian
I am not Indian.
Be sure, I will resist the forcing of your disguise,
the one on your face,
your ethnic or religious claims,
an obvious mask for the old gross concept of race.
I am not Indian.
My skin may be brown, my hair is black.
I have never been to the country you speak of.
My great-great-grandparents knew their way around,
but I am not them—a people I never met, I no longer desire to mimic their lost love.
I am not Indian,
not Bangladeshi, Pakistani,
nor Sri Lankan or Nepali,
I get that colours across states can seem the same,
but I refute this obsession with ancestral origin, pretending I am a jolly Bolly.
I am not Indian,
racially, religiously,
physically, by tax payments or sound,
I hold no greater claim to a country,
when my centuries of strangeness to the land is well-found.
And so, this word diaspora only counts,
if I called India mom.
My humid mother ate magwinyas for lunch,
so where is this diaspora theory coming from?
In what way is diaspora being used,
to rank human beings into deserving and less so.
Must I pour my grief onto Muslim or Christian Indians,
suggesting Hindu roots,
makes me more human, more acceptable.
Must I allow nebulous race,
peeking through ethnic, religious, colour claims,
propping up policies and processes that exclude,
or undermine some, while guaranteeing me an easier race.
Listen, I am not Indian,
I don’t cling to racial loyalties that hide behind ethnicity, religion or colour.
Every life matters.
Every power abuse, structural or incidental, requires I dig deep into knowledge.
I am not Indian,
yet, I reserve the freedom to criticise Indian policy as much as I please,
the policies and practices of any country.
I am done with this ethnic race colour fixation, amongst the springboks I paid my fees.
Do you get it? I am not Indian,
my husband is not European or politically white,
our son sure ain’t Anglo-Indian, coloured or mulatto,
this weird constant snacking on man-made race bites.
Hyper-generalising culture,
racialising religion and look-and-sound-a-likes,
in Tunisia, India, across Africa, Europe and Arab slave households,
please, keep my family out of this long dark night.
I am not Indian.
Yes, I celebrate Diwali, eating food with my hand like a pro.
My husband, who you seek to separate from me,
can eat hot food too and knows more Durban slang than any Indian would,
I won’t have these lines drawn between us, for me this is a no-go.
I am not Indian.
If you’re afraid of skin or accents,
worried about difference, an overpowering threat.
Please, first engage with how and why race matters to you,
We can’t be—shouldn’t be—responsible for your international, national inner discontent.
I am not Indian,
My son is not Asian,
he is not criminal or corrupt.
Loneliness, boisterousness, temper flares are human,
let’s keep that in mind before we assume or interrupt.
I am not Indian,
I was born an African woman,
let’s stop pretending racist, sexist ideas are rare and stay at home,
when last year’s economic minister suggested abortions for African women, his Suomi voters surely saw this as a win.
This man with his peers,
holding the quill, determining my likened fate,
only when he was publicly caught,
ignoring what racist idea means, he said he made an immature mistake.
But it wasn’t a mistake, was it?
He is not intellectually disabled or fresh out of a time machine,
the policies of the 1930s, 1960s,
like danmark’s sterilisations in green lands is what he says should be real.
And if your only formula for economic success,
is exploitation and cruelty in suits,
the old favourite remixed when innovation and neoliberalism should be reviewed,
then the world is in big trouble, severe indifference will turn into philosophical brutes.
When stateless migrants are funnelled,
through ’23’s E-and-U agreements,
costing hundreds of millions, money flushed down like poo-poo,
to struggling or opportunistic African states,
good people are selling human bodies, while complaining about population age in their citizen review.
Focussed on white women’s birth and fertility rates,
how frightening,
when the people in charge say they’re managing incoming threats,
while ignoring the mass grave of migrants in the same countries they call enlightening.
What they do to others, they can do to you,
if the time comes and the seething masses point to your bus.
Will it matter whether you paid your taxes, said please and thank you,
forcing you to find shelter with nothing but your clothes, you too will stand nonplussed.
And the people who voted for this,
will pretend that they didn’t see the ugliness coming,
that migration, crime and economic suffering,
was why toward suited swastikas they went running.
But the truth is and was,
they knew, just like they did in the 1930s,
they knew enough but chose indifference,
hoping to benefit from whatever was done to claw back prosperous streets.
I am not Indian,
but I understand more than most the tram ride between fear and race,
I grew up breathing in toxic fumes,
born to a normal that was a neo-Nazi capitalist state.
If I can offer any advice, let me say this,
fear is human, there’s no shame in anger or worry,
but ideas birth emotions, it’s important you interrogate, your biggest threat isn’t curry.
Let’s talk about financial markets, dependence on economies,
tell me how you hold business accountable, prevent geopolitical wars.
What success could your climate change migration plans have,
if you’re excluding, undermining, bringing weapons and death to other countries’ shores.
I am not Indian, friend,
Like you, I am human, nothing less or more.
Sleeping soundly is harder these days, this could happen to me,
if we were the many desperate, destitute or just plain poor.
Imagine, dark child
Switch off these endless, droning docu-volumes,
that bask in the everyday butcher knife,
of the breeding, killing, sleeping, bleeding,
the every day of our African wildlife.
Turn away from episodes on social mediums,
that beg for audience justification,
of advertising sponsors,
offering oblique African revelations,
devoid of historical, political context,
or economic critical analysis,
ignoring geopolitical ripples,
and how it’s left African countries on dialysis.
These critics, black, brown or white,
who tell the world of Africa’s bleak culture,
an inhuman, backwards, primitive set of values,
lazily disconnecting systems, processes, practices and policies, their voices often dulcour.
No, please sit alone,
in the African sun or under her night sky,
and ask yourself,
for once, ask why,
Africa does not have its own streaming service,
a world news, entertainment and docu-series giant,
that covers world best teacher and principal awards,
innovations from everyday items,
like building bricks from plastic forms,
exposing Africa’s child and the world,
to playwrights, mathematicians, architects,
engineers and singers,
a love for self, a voice that is yours being kindled.
Show me a blockbuster movie on |Xam history,
their loves, their southern African life,
juxtaposing this with their ruminations or current fights.
Show me a modern take, animated or live action,
of imaginative African lore,
Mawu-Lisa, Moon and Sun twins of Benin,
or Sango the thunder god, perhaps he knew Thor?
Tell me a story about days old,
the Mapungubwe traders or kings, an old world coming to life,
enflame our hearts by building a new song,
we deserve to refocus our minds.
Give me a book series of a teen superhero,
KwaMashu born, Section K,
son of a construction worker who solves local mysteries,
saving the day, with his own Aunt May.
Show me love and pain, joy and sorrow,
show me rage and peace, success and failure,
in every colour, every African thread,
our humanity to be seen, full and equal, don’t be a vailer.
You think it doesn’t matter,
you think you don’t care, get in the ring,
you’re playing catch-up, dark babe,
in a world that’s determined to only make money from your earth, your skin.
Don’t believe me? Search for stories about African elephants,
every beagle and Alaskan malamute,
will flood your brain waves on this mammal’s life and plight,
without mentioning the descendants of African ways, the people of note.
And so, Africa cannot rely on friendly others to tell their story.
Her children must rise to do it themselves.
Business, political, civil society might,
must lift up the unseen and unheard from the shelves.
Look abroad,
countries don’t prioritise English, French or Portuguese,
over their home-grown tongue,
it makes no sense if that’s a secondary dialect of ease.
So why can’t Africans have municipal libraries and docu-series in Zulu or Igbo,
Swahili or Pedi,
why can’t company press releases be in Kituba,
who said we can’t change how we are fed.
Who says we have to use Sam’s song?
What about an African branded cell phone?
The kind we source, we build, distribute and pay for,
Why would that be wrong?
Sit for a while and dream with me,
our imagination soaring like a black-winged kite.
Consider an Africa dark and free,
instead of being relegated to hunger, exploitation and strife.
Scrutinise the voice,
the one in your head and heart,
a whispering, slithering mamba telling you equal is assimilation,
ignoring the possibility of a fresh, collective start.
You are whoever you see yourself as,
confronting the source of hurt pride,
are you capable, dark and lovely,
or desperate, dark and ugly,
it is up to you, the system, processes and policies you choose will decide.
His song
what are you saying,
through our cities, suburban buildings,
rushing through open windows,
a whistling, howling elder,
telling us to look up and all around.
you, who bends the mighty trees,
rustling their leaves.
you, who blows sand,
against our skin,
in case we begrudge,
our seaside blessings.
you, who shove gusts,
through narrow paths,
pushing us back, reminding us,
how small we are,
how fragile,
wee bodies that can fall apart.
you’re generous too, we must agree,
offering us a cool breeze,
on a walk, cycle or jog.
a refreshment from weariness,
that helps us keep going,
when all we want to do,
is stop.
you sweep fallen leaves across our path,
serving notice,
all things come to an end.
and we must,
each and everyone,
prepare for rebirth,
the chance of a cyclical mend.
what do you want us to see, o’mighty winds,
the wretched encroachment of our modern ways,
across your green hills or brown dunes,
across and within your blue waves.
you whisper and shout,
I hear you inside and out
while here,
blinded by screens.
you call me, you call us,
loud as can be,
to sit with our maker,
in silent reverence,
amongst the holy pollen and weeds.